Rage

Rage is uncontrollable anger. Whilst anger is mostly a reaction or a response to something which triggers your displeasure or something which provokes you, rage always feels like an inherent destructive emotion. 

 Have you ever experienced rage? There is so much anger in you that you fail to identify whom you are angry at, why you are angry and what made you angry..

 I am someone who has always believed that fireballs and hard times never change you instead it should improve you. AS 'it should' sometimes is just another probability indeed, everything you go through has a tendency to change you. Anger as a response is a completely humane emotion, but rage, anger in its extremity is not a normal emotion. Things has to be stopped at anger without letting it turn to rage because if it does turn to rage, this rage can change you into something which you are not and no one wants that. 

Rage is a destructive emotion and it will turn you into someone irascible, impetuous and wrathful. Every religion is wary of rage or anger yet every extreme religious person is wrathful. What is that important point which we are missing here ?  No two objects exposed to similar pressure or heat reacts in the same way which means at the end of the day, the very own inherent properties of the object decides how it will react to something. Likewise, no two humans exposed to same kind of a situation will react similarly. 

All I am trying to do here is trying to extract root cause of why some people let rage in whilst some wouldn't. Stoic beliefs condemn anger and rage and addresses it as an acid which would tend to destruct its own vessel than what it is poured onto. Isn't it true ?  When anger turns to rage or hatred, in an attempt to achieve whatever we are trying to achieve aren't we self destructing ? Would we willfully want to let in anything which would destruct ourselves ? 

So, why does rage come in ?   Displeasing triggers, insults, ill treatment, disrespect from others, financial emotional and mental stress, abuse, relationship issues, violence, etc and etc.. Trying to list more and more root causes made me realize all of these stems down to everything unjust and unfair which happens to us. Can we expect everything to be fair and just in real life or if everything is fair and just would there ever be any achievements, hard work and efforts or improvements ? Well, I believe there lies the key on how to not let what you go through affect you. What is out of your control doesn't have to affect you instead it should improve and polish you. 

 How to deal with rage ?

Be more forgiving. A lot of strength goes into getting angry but why would someone even try to invest themselves in something which would eventually end up in the destruction of their very own self by threatening and depleting their core values. Or should we bring in more strength to our self by applying that healing balm called forgiveness, by letting go of our displeasure, by stop playing those corrupted scenarios in our mind again and again and by filling ourselves with hope once again for a better us. It would need strength to be a better person but if you can opt forgiveness it would be a great way to deal with rage. 

Have a check and clarity on your anger levels. Anger is a completely normal and human emotion. We can't change the way we are designed but we can improve ourselves by learning better about ourselves, our triggers and how intense would be our reaction to those triggers. There is no better way to deal with anything other than being able to be aware of ourselves better than anyone else.

Feel and express an emotion but never let it control you. Real mastery is to be able to control ourselves and control our emotions. As a human being, we can't be wary of our very own basic nature and need to be emotional. Every time you feel an emotion, feel it and express it but own your emotions by learning to domesticate it.

 Let your conscience do your judgement. Someone wise once rightfully remarked everything we hear is an opinion not a fact, everything we see is a perspective not the truth. Let your conscience judge you, your thoughts, your deeds not others opinions or words or acts.

Expand your horizon by re-framing your perception. The way you look at things has a lot to do with how you deal with them. Sometimes, accumulated anger or a pain you refuses to deal or confront with emotionally could be the trigger even if you think your rage is caused by an outside entity. What better way to deal with yourself and defuse your rage than by letting yourself to re-frame your perception ? 

Self control is a sign of great strength and wisdom and at the end of the day all of us are trying to lead a happy and peaceful life. So, what we are capable of controlling doesn't have to control us and create a negative and destructive influence of ourselves on others when we can still opt to control it. Happy and soulful living 😊